Mindful and Motivated for 2020

Everywhere I look, all my favorite writers are talking about goals and plans for the New Year. I did a post about how far I have come in the last 10 years, but my “goals” section of that post was not very full. The thing is, I stopped making resolutions many years ago. At one…

The Ending and a Beginning

It seems like life is always about ending and beginning again. A few weeks ago on social media, there was a wave of posts asking “What have you  accomplished or how have you changed over the past decade?” There is no way I could talk about the ways my life has changed in the past…

Evolution of a Polycule- October 2019

(Links to other Evolution of a Polycule posts at the bottom.) *********** Getting excited! I am finally going to see my German partners real soon! It was time for an update of the polycule, so… here we go! I recently posted this… which tells you a lot about my three partners and my “solo-poly journey……

Inked, Too

I have a new tattoo. Click here to read about my other tattoos and their meaning.  *******  So a few weeks ago in Medellin, I got a new tattoo. It’s awesome! It healed easily and beautifully. (Unlike my last one which was kind of a disaster. I was super nervous about doing this one because…

I’m Solo-Poly: No Relationship Escalator for Me

When most people talk about romantic relationships they usually mean something like this the following: Relationship Escalator. The default set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a progressive set of steps, each with visible markers, toward a clear goal. The goal at the top of the Escalator is to achieve a permanently monogamous (sexually…

Happily Mental

I am sitting in a lovely Italian bistro- a glass of Argentinian Malbec at hand (hey I am in South America- of course, the wine is South American even if the food is Italian!) with my laptop open, writing. This alone feels like a miracle.  I haven’t written anything outside of work stuff (and even…