Manipulation in Medellin

It’s not uncommon these days, to read about women who are victims of manipulation or gaslighting. People they love who claim to love them, try to manipulate them into believing that they are a bit crazy, that they’ve lost all perspective. Sometimes I can see elements of this type of manipulation in my relationship with…

The Big G of Dating: Ghosting

GHOSTING You pretty much can’t date in today’s internet world without experiencing ghosting. We talk about it like it is a normal thing. ‘Oh, he ghosted me/you.’ The ease with which technology allows us to be immature and unkind to one another can be a little scary.  Current “Ghosting” Stories Since I’ve been here in…

Sex, Shame & STI Status

I had been dating Stefan for at least a year in person and we had been together close to two years total. We had been fluid bonded already (not using protection during sex) for almost that whole year. But we had never had a conversation about safer sex, STI status, STI testing, or condom use…

Conflicted Consent

Cw: Consent, Non-Consent & Sexual Pressure My date was as hot as advertised and even a little taller than me, which was an unexpected bonus. He met my flatmate and her date while we all hung out on the patio, going back and forth between private and group discussions. He was smart, interesting, and sexy….

Every Day Pain

I’m currently sitting in a stunning cottage garden, on a cliff, overlooking the sea, in County Cork, Ireland. It’s gorgeous, peaceful, and amazing. It’s a Tibetan Buddhist Meditation Retreat center, so it’s full of a certain energy. It manifests in the way people talk to each other, the respect they show for the planet, for…

The Evolution of a Polycule- March 2019

You can read my previous “Evolution of a Polycule” posts about how my polyamorous relationships have evolved and changed in the links at the end. ********** New Continent- Same Relationships On April 1, I arrived in Medellin, Colombia. One of my most favorite places in the world. However, it is not known to be the…