Inked, Too

I have a new tattoo. Click here to read about my other tattoos and their meaning.  *******  So a few weeks ago in Medellin, I got a new tattoo. It’s awesome! It healed easily and beautifully. (Unlike my last one which was kind of a disaster. I was super nervous about doing this one because…

I’m Solo-Poly: No Relationship Escalator for Me

When most people talk about romantic relationships they usually mean something like this the following: Relationship Escalator. The default set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a progressive set of steps, each with visible markers, toward a clear goal. The goal at the top of the Escalator is to achieve a permanently monogamous (sexually…

Happily Mental

I am sitting in a lovely Italian bistro- a glass of Argentinian Malbec at hand (hey I am in South America- of course, the wine is South American even if the food is Italian!) with my laptop open, writing. This alone feels like a miracle.  I haven’t written anything outside of work stuff (and even…

Back Again, in Medellin

Flying the short distance from Bogota to Medellin, I am reminded once again how incredibly mountainous and empty this country is. The rugged landscape spreads below me partly under the clouds, partly peeking out through them. I have been thinking about the city, the small tienditas, the panaderias, the people sitting outside the drinks shop…