2020 has been a shit show. I don’t need to tell anyone that. For some of us, that means we’ve cocooned inward and taken even better care of ourselves; for others of us, it means barely surviving, eating too much comfort food, and drinking a lot of wine. Whichever camp you fall into, sending big…
Category: Lessons Learned
When I realized I preferred non-monogamy as my relationship orientation, it was as big of a surprise to me as it was to everyone around me. I grew up a very traditional Christian, and I had never heard the word polyamory, even after I had basically started practicing my relationships that way. But now I…
Have you ever read one of those internet lists? You know the ones you read because you have a morbid curiosity and can’t stop yourself from looking? Like this one: The 14 Craziest Objects Ever Found Inside People- https://www.ranker.com/list/the-13-craziest-objects-ever-found-inside-people/rachel-stewart Once I read about a woman who had a sex toy of some sort stuck in her…
1- Not treating the process like a job Finding someone you connect with on a deeper level is no accident. It takes work and focus. Sure you can grab a glass of wine or a nice rich whisky and sit on the porch Friday night and do some casual swiping when you’re bored, but that…
“We don’t tell other people what goes on in this house.” -Mom I grew up in a house that was full of secrets and lies. I would be mostly grown before I realized that keeping secrets wasn’t normal. The things that happened behind our closed doors not only shouldn’t have happened but probably would have…
As I thought about the theme for this Kink of the Week, I thought about the many different connotations I could bring to the topic of Exhibition that I learned from my life in Berlin. Many of you have read other posts of mine, and you know that living in Berlin was transformational, and I…
The older I get, the more me I am. The more me I am, the more I need people in my life who allow me the freedom to be that person. As I grow and change, I am less and less able to let people into my space who don’t really ‘see’ me. It’s too…
Choosing an alternative lifestyle helped me break the chains of my upbringing. ********** It’s a lovely memory. Sitting outside at an Italian cafe in Cuenca, Ecuador, drinking a complex Argentinian Malbec, noshing on a spicy charcuterie tray, and sharing travel stories with new friends. But what really sticks out for me was a comment a…
And like all good polyamorous relationships, we each have a different relationship with her- our sleep. ********** ME: (F47) I need at least 8 hours of sleep, preferably 9-10. I go to bed around 11-12 pm and wake up around 9 am. I am blessed to have the kind of job that allows me to…
****** I have been putting off posting this, it is a bit more vulnerable than maybe my usual. I am realizing this week, my first week back with DJDM, just how true it is and how much I really want to be better at this aspect of my life!****** ********** I was snuggling on the…