Manipulation in Medellin

It’s not uncommon these days, to read about women who are victims of manipulation or gaslighting. People they love who claim to love them, try to manipulate them into believing that they are a bit crazy, that they’ve lost all perspective. Sometimes I can see elements of this type of manipulation in my relationship with…

The Big G of Dating: Ghosting

GHOSTING You pretty much can’t date in today’s internet world without experiencing ghosting. We talk about it like it is a normal thing. ‘Oh, he ghosted me/you.’ The ease with which technology allows us to be immature and unkind to one another can be a little scary.  Current “Ghosting” Stories Since I’ve been here in…

The Evolution of a Polycule- March 2019

You can read my previous “Evolution of a Polycule” posts about how my polyamorous relationships have evolved and changed in the links at the end. ********** New Continent- Same Relationships On April 1, I arrived in Medellin, Colombia. One of my most favorite places in the world. However, it is not known to be the…

Travel, Privilege, and Solo-Poly

Riding on the West Highlands train line from Mallaig to Fort William in Scotland, listening to Hozier, and gazing out the window at some of the most beautiful landscapes in the world, I was overcome with emotion. Thankfully, this happens to me frequently. I am so aware of the blessing, the honor, and the privilege…

Before and After

There are so many befores and afters in a lifetime. I find it overwhelming to consider the implications of so many beginnings following endings. Before and after: My parents’ divorce My step-father Graduating high school Graduating college Meeting my best friend Moving into my own place Getting first real job Having sex for the first…