Random Ramblings: So, you know that lull in the conversation? You’ve been chatting with your friend over coffee for a bit, but now you either need refills, or maybe it’s time to go, but you still kind of want to hang out and enjoy their company and keep chatting? Maybe that’s where we are now….
New Projects: So- lately I have found I have all this energy- and to be totally honest, I have no idea what to do with it! Last night it was 7:30ish and I knew I wanted to take down my Christmas tree etc for this weekend, so I pulled out all the boxes so I…
Well, you probably knew it was coming even though I thought I could hold it off indefinitely. I mean, all the things I mentioned about how our relationship was and had been going surely gave everyone around me the signs… heck I knew they were there but the pandemic lockdown and my desire to keep…
I originally thought I was going to want to talk about breaking up with Said in a few of these posts. We broke up the day after Christmas, after some lengthy back and forth conversations Christmas night and into the next day. I had a few really emotional days after that, and even last night…
In November when I settled in NY permanently (again), I went to my Mom’s and picked up the boxes I had been storing in her basement for the past six years, or so. Some of the boxes had sentimental things, like baby blankets, old journals, and diaries. I spent some time wandering down memory lane…
Well- this has been some year eh? The whole concept of a polycule and multiple relationships is suspect in a year when getting together and seeing other people was mostly against the rules, let alone meeting new people, yet… we endure. For now, let me gather all the words and present my annual end of…
2020 has been a shit show. I don’t need to tell anyone that. For some of us, that means we’ve cocooned inward and taken even better care of ourselves; for others of us, it means barely surviving, eating too much comfort food, and drinking a lot of wine. Whichever camp you fall into, sending big…
When we first started dating, my boyfriend, Said, was new to being in a polyamorous relationship. He started from a really open and curious place as a swinger and his love style definitely includes being happy (and turned on) when his partner is happy, so polyamory wasn’t a difficult concept for him to adopt. We…
I love my friends, I really do. But try as they might, they really struggled at first to understand my penchant for polyamory. More specifically they didn’t understand my relationships. I remember one time, I was sitting outside at a café, sipping a frothy cappuccino in the sunlight with one of my girlfriends, and gushing…
When I realized I preferred non-monogamy as my relationship orientation, it was as big of a surprise to me as it was to everyone around me. I grew up a very traditional Christian, and I had never heard the word polyamory, even after I had basically started practicing my relationships that way. But now I…