Manipulation in Medellin

It’s not uncommon these days, to read about women who are victims of manipulation or gaslighting. People they love who claim to love them, try to manipulate them into believing that they are a bit crazy, that they’ve lost all perspective. Sometimes I can see elements of this type of manipulation in my relationship with…

Sex, Shame & STI Status

I had been dating Stefan for at least a year in person and we had been together close to two years total. We had been fluid bonded already (not using protection during sex) for almost that whole year. But we had never had a conversation about safer sex, STI status, STI testing, or condom use…

Conflicted Consent

Cw: Consent, Non-Consent & Sexual Pressure My date was as hot as advertised and even a little taller than me, which was an unexpected bonus. He met my flatmate and her date while we all hung out on the patio, going back and forth between private and group discussions. He was smart, interesting, and sexy….

The Evolution of a Polycule- March 2019

You can read my previous “Evolution of a Polycule” posts about how my polyamorous relationships have evolved and changed in the links at the end. ********** New Continent- Same Relationships On April 1, I arrived in Medellin, Colombia. One of my most favorite places in the world. However, it is not known to be the…

Travel, Privilege, and Solo-Poly

Riding on the West Highlands train line from Mallaig to Fort William in Scotland, listening to Hozier, and gazing out the window at some of the most beautiful landscapes in the world, I was overcome with emotion. Thankfully, this happens to me frequently. I am so aware of the blessing, the honor, and the privilege…

Evolution of a Polycule- January 2019

I was looking at the meme- Food for Thought Friday and this week’s prompt was something I felt I could contribute to. The prompt this week is: Sexual relationships come in all flavors; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual…