Sex, Shame & STI Status

I had been dating Stefan for at least a year in person and we had been together close to two years total. We had been fluid bonded already (not using protection during sex) for almost that whole year. But we had never had a conversation about safer sex, STI status, STI testing, or condom use…

Conflicted Consent

Cw: Consent, Non-Consent & Sexual Pressure My date was as hot as advertised and even a little taller than me, which was an unexpected bonus. He met my flatmate and her date while we all hung out on the patio, going back and forth between private and group discussions. He was smart, interesting, and sexy….

Every Day Pain

I’m currently sitting in a stunning cottage garden, on a cliff, overlooking the sea, in County Cork, Ireland. It’s gorgeous, peaceful, and amazing. It’s a Tibetan Buddhist Meditation Retreat center, so it’s full of a certain energy. It manifests in the way people talk to each other, the respect they show for the planet, for…